2 easy ways to become more positive, and they’re not what you think…

Hello Gorgeous,

As I write this, I’m officially 19 weeks pregnant as of yesterday and am slowly starting to get my energy back. Fitness has always been important to me and being too tired to move my body has been one of the hardest challenges of pregnancy so far. The good news is that I’m starting to get out for power walks, jogs, and now finally the gym for the first time this morning! Hallelujah! Pregnancy has turned a corner!

As I was leaving the gym this morning, I was thinking how good it felt to move my body, what a beautiful morning it was, and feeling great about life in general.

However this positivity was not how I was feeling even a few short weeks before.

I was totally noticing everything that was not great: my shitty sleep, the never ending exhaustion, mourning the loss of control and my “freedom,” not having clothes that fit anymore, the weird things happening to my body, and all the things I wanted to do but didn’t have the energy for.

I was totally looking at the world through a negativity bias.

This is when we tend to give more weight to negative information than the positive.

As I understand it, negativity bias is a very primal way of thinking because its purpose at one point was to keep us out of danger.

After all, thousands of years ago we needed to scan our environment all the time to keep us safe. If we heard rustling in the jungle and didn’t consider it a potential threat we had the real risk of being eaten by something.

Even though we don’t have the same kinds of threats anymore, we still have inherited a tendency to look for what’s wrong, rather than what’s right.

This brings me to a study I heard on CBC a while ago with pessimists, and optimists, and their accuracy at determining outcomes.

So, how accurate were each group at predicting outcomes?

The pessimists, were waaaaay more accurate at predicting outcomes. They saw themselves more accurately and did better overall.

But here’s the interesting part: the optimists were happier overall in life.

It reminded me of something I often think about when I’m having an argument: Would you rather be happy, or right?

I don’t know about you, but I choose happy any day!

How do we start to lean more to a happiness bias instead of a negative one?

Here are 2 easy-peasy ways, and probably not what you think:

  1. Savour the good moments. Spending a little bit of time everyday recounting the positive moments of your day and savouring them, helps rewire your brain to look for the good. By remembering good moments and feeling them, makes our brains and bodies feel like it’s happening all over again which is like a double benefit to us.
  2. Conscious acts of kindness. This can be as simple as emailing someone to thank them for something you are grateful for or consciously making someone’s life better such as doing something kind just for the sake of it. Doing good, makes us feel good. Simple as that!

The best part of feeling good, is to share it! Tell me about a positive moment in your day or your conscious act of kindness either in the Soul Sisterhood or below in the comments. While you’re at it, share with us your tricks for staying positive.

Oh! One more way to get bonus positivity points? Share the good stuff around! So feel free to share this email to all your friends, on Facebook, Twitter, you name it! Happiness can only increase by being shared.

Thank you for being a part of my community and being the beautiful light that you are. I often imagine what a different world we would live in if we all spent more time on things that make us happy, instead of just busy. You are a part of that shift, and I love you for it!

Love and Light,

t

6 replies
  1. Chelsea
    Chelsea says:

    Great post T! 🙂 I find it helps me to stay positive if I can also be immersed in nature each day – meditating in the backyard, feeling the breeze on my face, hearing the leaves rustling in the trees as the birds chirp happily, taking time to literally stop and smell the flowers that are blooming all around while I walk my dog, also stopping and hugging trees and take in the cool, fresh scent of earth and life. New to me this year is riding my bike to and from work – I get to go through the park by the lake twice a day! Love it!

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  2. Phillipa
    Phillipa says:

    Thank you for your beautiful post that landed in my inbox this morning, I am also pregnant (15 weeks) and can totally relate to all those feelings you mentioned. I have just started to feel a little more ‘human’ again and feeling more positive about being pregnant. I just wanted to say thank you for making me feel like I am not the only pregnant lady out there that has felt so down and sad/unsure of all the changes my body has been going through. I use to attend your yoga classes at Bodhi and really miss them after returning to Australia. They were always so beautiful and revitalizing. I wish you all the very best with your pregnancy. Phillipa xo

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    • Tina
      Tina says:

      My pleasure Phillipa, you are definitely not alone, I promise that I’m right here with you. Pregnancy isn’t easy, and how we feel is unique to each of us and totally okay. Congratulations on your own pregnancy, and please stay in touch. No one is too far away with the internet! Much love and light to you. xoxo t

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