Like you, I have limited time and a lot of stuff to do.
My days start at 6am shuffling into my toddler’s room for snuggles and stories, followed by a day juggling work, childcare, and all the other things that come with managing a family and business.
The biggest challenge I’ve had to overcome since having my son is how to get a lot more done on way less time.
Early on, I decided that I wanted a clear division between work and family time. I know that if I’m trying to “squeeze things in” or trying to multitask, nothing gets done and if it does, it’s definitely not going to be done well.
Not too long ago, I felt like I was running from one task to another and constantly putting out fires trying to stay on top of my life.
I’d drop my son of at the babysitters and eat in the car on my way to my next appointment. Then I’d run up the sitters driveway to pick him up on time to get him home for his nap. Once he was down, I’d quickly tidy up, then try to get some work done in the half our I’d have left while he slept. And on and on it went, running from one thing to another, and feeling like I was sucking at everything.
I was spread out, scattered, and overwhelmed with life.
I realized that what I wanted most was to be present with what’s most important to me. I had to shift my energy from trying to “fit it all in” to prioritizing what’s most important right now, and committing to being fully present with it.
So, I now choose to be present with my family when I’m with them so I can be the best wife and mother I can be. I choose to be focused on my work without distraction so I can fully devote myself to making women’s lives better. I choose to take care of myself because my well being is important for all the reasons.
But I’m also the primary caregiver to my son, which means I have way less time to work and just as much stuff to do.
I learned quickly that I needed to figure out a system to support my choices and my time, so I developed a simple but powerful strategy to help me get more done in less time without the guilt. These are the questions I began to ask myself daily:
- What do I want to accomplish?
- What can I leverage to get there faster?
- What do I need to let go of to make it happen?
These questions help me choose what to focus on to make the biggest impact, in less time, without adding more stuff to do.
Absolutely I use this for my business, but I ALSO use this strategy in all aspects of my life, whether it’s how I’m going to structure my day, how I want to feel, resolving conflicts (seriously, read the questions again, they really do work if your aim isn’t only to win), and taking care of myself.
I can’t control all the circumstances of my life, but I can control how I approach them. Using these 3 simple questions has allowed me to have more control, clarity, and freedom.
I have stopped treading water. As a result, I have time for the things that are most important to me: my family, my work, and what fills me up.
It started with asking myself a few simple questions to clarify my focus, leverage the time I have, and do the things I want, and do them well.