So, did you bite? Do you want to find out your one TRUE purpose in life?
If you’re anything like I was, you might be desperately trying to find the RIGHT thing.
The perfect job, the perfect path, the perfect cause that would be your life’s purpose.
That thing that you are meant to devote your life to.
Here’s what I said in this last week’s Soul Strategy Sessions that was followed by silence and then cheers:
Fuck your purpose.
Okay, so that might sound harsh, but hear me out.
Why would we believe that we have only ONE true purpose in life?
What if we didn’t figure it out, does that mean that our whole life was meaningless, that we missed the point?
Or that it was somehow wasted?
I call bullshit.
It’s crazy to believe that we are hardwired for one thing, and one thing only, and then have the impossible task of also having to figure out what it is.
Our purpose is simple: to be happy.
“I believe that the purpose of life is to be happy. From the moment of birth, every human being wants happiness and does not want suffering. Neither social conditioning nor education nor ideology affect this. From the very core of our being, we simply desire contentment. I don’t know whether the universe, with its countless galaxies, stars and planets, has a deeper meaning or not, but at the very least, it is clear that we humans who live on this earth face the task of making a happy life for ourselves. Therefore, it is important to discover what will bring about the greatest degree of happiness.” – Dalai Lama
We are most content and happy when we are living in alignment with our values, and there is not just one, but hundreds of ways to do this.
Whether our values are integrity, freedom, love, learning, or any of the many others, we are always trying to fulfill them in our lives.
When we allow our values guide us to happiness, our lives become meaningful and we feel most fulfilled.
We are most unhappy, disconnected, and unfulfilled when we are living out of alignment with our values.
For example, if one of your values is acceptance, you might notice how happy you feel when you reach out to others and make them feel welcome.
Conversely, you might feel more terrible than others whose value is not acceptance, if you engage in gossip because it goes directly against your values.
We as humans are meaning seeking animals.
We try to make sense of a world that seems random and makes no sense, so we add meaning to it try to understand it the world around us.
Meaning is subjective not objective.
It is completely dependent on the viewpoint, not events.
It’s the same with our lives.
I was generously sent to take the Landmark Forum 2 years ago by Lululemon. (If you aren’t familiar with it it’s a 4 day personal development course in Vancouver.) At one point the facilitator announced:
Life is empty and meaningless.
Half of the audience gasped and started crying.
He continued to explain further that the only meaning this life has is the meaning we attribute it, so choose wisely.
Meaning can be found anywhere if you connect it back to your values.
You don’t need to find a different job, or path, all you need to do is understand how you can fulfill your values in what you are already doing.
Now, if one of your values is honesty, and your job relies on lying to people you may have a problem.
But most of our values can be fulfilled in jobs, paths, and roles that we are already in.
For me, when I was young I loved being a server.
Not because I liked working long hours late into the night, or that I thought it was my life’s purpose to wait tables, but because two of my main core values: connection and freedom were satisfied.
I love connecting with people, and serving for me was all about building relationships so I truly enjoyed doing it.
I also had a lot of autonomy, and tipped out more than my wage every night knowing that how much money I made was up to me.
I felt like an entrepreneur and that satisfied my value for freedom.
As Martin Luther King Jr. said:
“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michaelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.”
If you aren’t sure of your own core values or you want to learn more about them, I’ve got a FREE tool for you called the Clarity Crash Course.
Once you are aware of your values, they become your North Star guiding you to your happiness and ultimately will make your life more meaningful.
I’d love to hear from you now: what are your core values, and how do they impact your life? How have your values shown you that you were out of alignment? Do you like cookies? If so, what’s your favorite kind, and when are you bringing them over? Share your comments below or in the Soul Sisterhood on Facebook.
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Love and Light,