I had an intense weekend. My husband and I left on Friday to spend the weekend at the lake for the relaxation and sunshine with his wonderful parents.
I laid down for a nap Saturday at noon and woke up to my phone ringing with a call from my folk’s house. My dad said that mom had an accident and broke her hip, she was scheduled for surgery in less than 30 minutes.
Oh. My. God. I lost my breath.
My mom is one tough little cookie. She’s feisty, stubborn, fiercely loving, and also diabetic, afraid of anaesthesia, and pain. Surgery can be dicey for diabetics because they don’t heal as well as other people, and I knew she was scared. I was too.
I have an incredible husband who drove me 2.5 hours back to the city so I could quickly pack up new clothes (lake clothes are not hanging out in public clothes), jump into my car, and head up to Saskatoon to help my family out.
I’m happy to say my mom did beautifully, she’s tough, she’s motivated, and she’s got a positive outlook, so she’s going to heal up just fine. She’ll be in the hospital for at least a few more days while she relearns how to get out of bed, get dressed, and walk with a walker until her hip heals.
Mom has had excellent care, and I am so proud to live in a country that rushed my little mom to emergency surgery, and has had such loving and kind people taking care of her while she recovers. Seriously, healthcare providers are my hero’s, and I am so grateful for everyone that has chosen to dedicate their lives to help people like my mom. If this is you, thank you. You are appreciated, and I love you!
I’m still in Saskatoon as I write this to you, and I’m just about to head to the hospital to hang with my mamma and bring her some food. I love healthcare workers, hate the hospital food. Mom couldn’t even eat it yesterday! Seriously, yesterday it looked like someone barfed on her plate. Gross.
So today’s post is going to be short, and sweet. Here’s what my weekend of crisis reminded me of:
1) To be grateful for the time I have with my family and those that I love. Our time is limited, so enjoy each moment. That call from my dad really shook me out of the trance that there will always be more time. It’s a lie, don’t let it rob precious time from you.
2) That I’m lucky have so many people in my life that love me no matter what and let me feel like I can just let it all hang out. When I got the call, my husband and his family right away jumped to offer me support, let me cry, and help me figure out what needed to be done. My own family feels like home and makes it easy to show up exactly as I am. I’ve had so much support from my friend, clients, and you, so I could rush out of the city for a while and be with my family. I am so blessed.
3) You can never overdo kindness or patience. During stressful times it’s easy to get wound up and get wrapped up in your own stuff. Becoming present with others and showing up with an abundance of kindness and patience keeps the peace, and helps create great relationships with the hospital staff too!
4) I have an incredible family and I love them like crazy. My parents are landed immigrants so there’s only four of us in Canada: mom, dad, my brother, and me. We are small, tight, and strong. We’ve been through lots together and we know how to rally.
5) I need to visit them way more. I am acutely aware that I am not visiting my family nearly as much as I would like to. I have been “busy,” (that makes me sick to even write that) and I have been putting it off for way too long. I would never wish suffering on anyone let alone my mom, and I am still grateful to have had the wake up call to get my ass in gear, and be reminded of just how much I love, and love being with, my family. I need to see them more.
I’d love to hear from you now! Have you ever had a moment of crisis, and what powerful lessons did you take away from it? Please comment below to share your insights.
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Take care my friend, thank you for being the beautiful person that you are and all that you do.
Love and Light,