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your dreams are your destiny

Do you have a dream that you would love to realize, but you are waiting for the right time, the right opportunity, or just ‘later’?

Maybe you don’t have a clear enough picture yet to get started, or you are just downright paralyzed with fear because you might not be successful at it? Or even that you might? Then this post is just for you.

Your dreams are your destiny. 

It’s no accident that you love what you love, and that you dream of your “wouldn’t that be nice someday?” vision. All of us have a special calling that is just waiting to be realized, and it is also waiting inside of you. I’m not saying you need to quit your job, or make some drastic change, or maybe you do. What I want you to understand is that if you do have a dream, it is your responsibility to bring that into the world.

Your life is too short to spend it doing things that don’t ignite inspiration, share your best self, and suck your soul. That is not who you are, and it is not what you are meant for.

You. Yes you, are meant for great things. You have been given a unique gift that the world will never have unless you take action to create it or to be it.

“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy that is translated through you into action and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, nor your business to compare it to other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours, clearly, and directly, to keep the channel going.” – Martha Graham

Yes.

Here’s how to get started:

1) Passion + skills = your genius.
If you are wondering where your sweet spot of purpose is, the above equation sums it up. Your passion, plus your skills (and you might need to acquire new ones or more) equals your unique genius that is your vehicle to create greatness in the world.

2) Be brave, even if you are scared. 
Being brave doesn’t mean that you don’t have fear. It means that you believe in the beauty of your dreams more than you believe the fear. You are choosing your life and how you want to live it instead of playing small. There are no guarantees in life no matter what you do, so you might as well play big and create something wonderful!

3) Take consistent action.
I personally don’t know of any overnight success stories. I’m not saying they don’t exist, I’m saying I don’t know of any. What I do know, is that small consistent action will get you in your direction much faster than burning yourself out in the beginning, and then giving up because you didn’t see results immediately. Make consistent action a part of your life’s practice and you will see results before you know it.

4) Figure out who you are serving.
“If you write for God you will reach many men and bring them joy. If you write for men–you may make some money and you may give someone a little joy and you may make a noise in the world, for a little while. If you write for yourself, you can read what you yourself have written and after ten minutes you will be so disgusted that you will wish that you were dead.” – Thomas Merton

Take some time to investigate really who you are serving, and how will they benefit from you living your dream. We are interconnected beings, and if you really want to have meaning and purpose in your life, your vision must include how others will benefit from your dream or you will “be so disgusted that you wish that you were dead.”

We all want to make a difference. We want to feel connected to each other. We can’t help it, it’s how we’re built as human beings. Imagine everyone who would benefit from you actualizing your dream, even if you are reaching, it doesn’t matter. We impact people in ways we will never know, this is being intentional about it.

5) Do it for the love.
Create your dream because you love it, not because it’s on your bucket list. Do it because it makes you tingle inside, and reminds you that you are a part of something bigger. Do it because it makes you feel free, and your hearts doors swing wide open whenever you talk about it. Do it because you love it and you can’t help bringing that love out into the world. Besides, love is what you were born to do anyways, so why not create something beautiful out of it?

If you are ready to start building your dream, I have some great news for you! 

The Soul Strategy Sessions and Fall Equinox Retreat are starting to fill, even though we’re still a month and a half away. If you are ready to start making your life happen, and love working in an inspiring supportive group setting, then sign up fast to save your space! Email me to reserve your space.

The Discovery Session is the best place to start if you would like to experience one on one coaching. This will give you an opportunity to experience me as a coach and see how coaching can specifically benefit you in your life right now. I only have space for 3 more clients right now, and I would love one of them to be you! Email me at tina@tinahnatiuk.com to book your Discovery Session and uncover what beautiful possibilities are there waiting for you!

Now I’d like to hear from you! Do you have a dream that is just waiting to manifest, or one that you are creating right now? What do you do to bring it into reality? What are your fears, and how do you manage them? Please share your insights here.

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Thank you for being the light that you are. We are all better for it.

Love and Light,
t

why finding balance is bad for you

How are you doing? I mean REALLY doing? Are you feeling like your life is in balance, or are you feeling like you are overworked, tired, scrambling to do all the things you SHOULD be doing to find balance, and then feeling guilty to boot? Is the pursuit of finding balance even maybe…exhausting you?

Balance in my opinion, is one of the most overused words in personal development and yoga circles. People talk about balance as though once you find it everything from now on will forever and ever be perfect from here on in. Like, you just have to find the magic formula (people make a lot of money off this) and…Ta da! Your life is changed, you have no more problems or stress, and now you can relax because you’ve found balance and now life can go tickety-boo. What a load. Honestly, do you know anyone that says they’ve found balance in their life? It’s a flat out lie and we are eating it up, believing it, and even more stressed out because of it. Balance isn’t something you find, it’s something you practice and create moment to moment. It’s about making choices every single day to keep you in a state of equilibrium, and it is usually somewhat imbalanced anyways because life isn’t the steadiest ground to work with.

In my 20’s I was either working 2 jobs, or working full time and going to school full time. I would run to and from work during my day job, then go to work most of the night. Or run to school during the day and work all night. I did yoga, ate well, and didn’t sleep. I was exhausted chasing the dream of having a career that I could be proud of and not knowing what that could be, and too tired to have the relationships I wanted. And although I have always been cheerful, I had terrible self-confidence and on some level didn’t believe I deserved much better, or that I could even get something better. I felt totally out of control and everything in my life felt hard and out of whack. Maybe you can relate to this too? Thankfully, it has been 7 years since I left that part of my life behind and I am on the other side of it now and want to share what I have learned along the way.

In yoga balance is a process, and there are a series of things we do to balance in a pose. We fix our gaze, steady our breath, feel our bodies, and distribute weight evenly. We get present. We shift a little here, and then a little there, to find the midpoint. It’s an intentional process that doesn’t just happen on its own, and we also get better at it the more we do it. The Yoga “Sutra Sthira Sukham Asanam” translates as this: effort without tension in the pose, or as my book of sutras defines it “Yoga pose is steady and comfortable position.” That is how balance is accomplished, but putting effort where it’s needed and relaxing the rest.

Here’s the other thing, balance is a concept to be put into practice, not an end goal. There will always be externals putting strain on your perfect pedestal of balance. As my coach says “life keeps on life-ing,” it’s what you do in spite of it that counts. Even in yoga practice your body is different day to day, and you get to work with what’s here, and adjust as needed. If you cling to the idea of balance being somewhere you are going to get to or find, you’ll (as Jack Kornfield says) get rope burn.

Sometimes that means doing the things you may not want to in the moment but knowing they will make you feel good in the long term (this is the effort and steady part). An example might be sweating everyday even though you are tired, but knowing how good it makes you feel and how much more energy you will have from putting the effort in. It also means stopping doing some things that might make you feel good right now, but make you feel terrible long term (this is letting go of the tension and settling into comfort). An example of this would be letting go of watching TV for hours every night because you know you don’t sleep as well because of it. A big one is learning to say no, so you can say yes to yourself.

It’s also helpful to take a close look at your life, the way you are currently living it, and asking some hard questions, like getting clear on:

Why am I even doing this? For what purpose?

Does this feed and nourish me? Physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Can I really have, and do it all, and why does it even matter? To whom?

Who is impacted by the choices I’m making right now? What’s working, not working, about those choices?

Where can I cut myself some slack and be nicer to myself?

What are my real priorities, and where am I actually spending most of my time?

Do what will make the difference in your life, and be okay with letting go of what’s not. You don’t have to do it all, and really why should you? To be someone else’s idea of an ideal? That’s a waste of your life and a waste of your genius. Stop it. Please, stop it right now!

When you get clear on what’s really important to you, you have a stable ground for your practice of balance to stand on. You can more easily say no, create better boundaries, and decide to commit to the things that serve you, and those who are important to you.

Balance isn’t found, it’s created every single moment of every day. A little here, a little more there. Let yourself be flexible so you can flow with what life throws at you without losing your ground and what is most important to you. Imagine yourself like a tree that might get blown in the wind, but its roots will hold it firmly in place. I’m the proof that this works.

If you love this stuff and want more, then I want to give it to you! Are you sick of feeling like you are working your ass off at everything, trying to do it all (with a smile), and still ending up feeling exhausted and guilty for not having anything left to give to those that you love? And what about you? Do you even remember what you love to do? What makes you feel most alive? Maybe there’s also this part of you that is ready to make a real shift, and you realize that you can’t do this on your own because you’ve been there, done that, and it didn’t work.

I hear you, and I totally get it. Email me to book a totally free Alignment Session and see what’s possible for your life. Let’s face it, if you really could have done this on your own, you would have a long time ago. The truth is that we are interdependent and we need each other to see ourselves. I have a few spots becoming available for one on one coaching, and if you saw yourself in the above paragraph, I would love to work with you. I’ve got your back my friend, let’s connect.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What do you think about balance? Is it something you struggle with? What do you do to work towards it? Please post below to leave your comments.

Do you know someone who could use a little support with balance? Then please feel free to share this blog with them! We all need support, and we can’t do it on our own. Share the wisdom and the love below.

Just so you know, you are my favorite. Thank you for being the beautiful person that you are!

Love and Light,

t