To be honest, I had a totally different post planned for today, but I’ve decided to postpone it for next week because it will follow this one beautifully anyways.
When we know better, we do better.
That is what Oprah said to me as a child watching her show and it changed my life.
In its simplicity, the above statement says something beautifully.
We don’t all know better.
When we do, it’s our responsibility to change our behavior. Ignorance no longer counts.
It inspired compassion in me for people who may not have the same skill set as I do, and gave me the seeds of personal responsibility defining what it meant to act with integrity.
It didn’t take me very long to cultivate the compassion part, but responsibility is still something I am constantly practicing and working to getting better at.
Here’s a few ways I practice Oprah’s words:
1) Everyone is doing the best they can with what they got.
This is probably something else I heard on Oprah and I absolutely believe this to be true. Not everyone has the same life skills, yet everyone is doing the best they can whether you understand it or not. Be compassionate for people on their journey to do better, we are all walking the same path.
2) Eliminate try and maybe from your vocabulary.
You don’t try to sit down, right? You sit do or you don’t. Same thing with maybe. This type of language usually means no or that you don’t want to do it, so just be honest and say no. It will save you from the resistance and others from being disappointed.
3) The first time you do it it’s a mistake, the second time it’s a choice.
If you keep making the same mistake, and know it’s a mistake, it’s no longer a mistake, there is some part of you that is choosing it. If you are constantly late, not following through on what you say you’re going to do, saying yes to everyone and then feeling resentful about it, repeatedly staying too long in the wrong relationships, you are choosing this. You can choose differently.
I know, I know, I learned integrity from Oprah, what are you going to do about it?
I would love to hear from you!
What are your best tips to act with integrity? Did Oprah change your life too? What words of wisdom changed your life? I love hearing from you, please share in the comments below.
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