do you want to know my secret for feeling confident?

Most people hope that they have a good day or hope that they will feel good. What if you could choose to feel good and have a good day every day? What’s the difference between the times that you had a good day or the ones that you didn’t? Your days, like mine, are probably pretty predictable and fairly similar. So what’s the difference between a kick ass day, and one that totally sucked?

You don’t need to ask permission, you just need to decide.

Waiting for the right circumstance to be happy, confident, or relaxed is not a great strategy for living powerfully. It leaves you at the mercy of externals which are unpredictable, instead of living powerfully through your own choice. If you want to feel confident, happy, powerful, or any other desired state, you just have to decide. I’ll show you how in a moment.

Your attitude will determine your experience. 

How you show up, and your attitude, will directly influence the way you feel and behave. When you feel small, defeated, disengaged, or unworthy, you will behave from this unappealing place and not be your best self or make great choices. What great choices are made out fear? None. Instead, you can choose a positive emotion of how you want to feel and chose to be in a place of choice and responsiveness. From here you can act more powerfully, more lovingly, and be your best, and most authentic self.

Imagine what it feels like as though it were happening right now. 

Here’s how you change your state:

  1. Decide on your desired feeling.
  2. Think of a few times in your life that you have already felt this feeling quite strongly.
  3. Imagine what that feeling felt like as though it were happening right now. Where does it live in your body? What does it feel like physically?
  4. Allow yourself to be completely immersed in the feeling.

 
When you focus on serving, the fear leaves.

If you are having a hard time shaking a yucky feeling and can’t do it for you, do it for others. One of the best tools I use when I’m having a hard time getting out of my own stuff, is to focus on how my choice to show up powerfully will positively impact others. Almost 8 years ago I stood shaking with fear as I stood at the front of Yoga Santosha preparing to teach my first yoga class. I was teaching students that only yesterday I was practicing next to, and I was in a deep stinky pile of unworthiness, fear, and lack of confidence. Then I remembered my coaches voice telling me that “they aren’t here for you, they are hear for what you can GIVE them,” and I quickly snapped out of it. I asked everyone in the room to start breathing (so I could find my breath), and then as I looked out at them I got out of my own way and decided to show up for them as the confident present teacher they deserved.

This doesn’t mean you will never get knocked down, or have a bad day, it just means that your practice of deciding how you want to feel despite your circumstance and taking action, will help you move through the yucky stuff quicker.

I’d love to hear from you! What do you do to boost your good feelings like confidence? I’d love to read your comments below!

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Love and Light,
t

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  1. Pat Erhardt
    Pat Erhardt says:

    I totally agree with you, and I know and understand these concepts and the results, however, I find that I do not always practice what I know. When I am stressed or overburdened (when I need it the most) I seem to slide into amnesia! I am working on paying more attention to what my body and gut are telling me when this happens and what inhibiting thoughts are that I am having. Then I can focus on what adjustments to make in my thought processes.

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    • Tina
      Tina says:

      Yes! I totally get what you are saying and feel often the same way. I make space for it to be a practice and not perfection so I can let go of the judgment that says: “I should know this by now!” Kindness makes space for change. 🙂

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