One of the hardest things for those of us who work from home is dealing with days you don’t want to get out of bed because you’ve just had it with everything and you are just plain exhausted (for those of you in an office, this is the equivalent to a personal day or stress leave, so you are included in this email too!). We don’t technically have anyone we are accountable (like a boss I mean), so if you are having a tough day, it’s easy to want to say f*ck it and go back to bed wallowing in your own self pity. This is not a very effective tool for business, or life for that matter, so below is my secret tool to keep on keepin’ on when every bone in your body doesn’t want to.
It’s not that you feel this way sometimes that’s a problem, it’s what you believe it means about you that can be really sabotaging. There’s nothing wrong with you, I promise. Just like my previous blog post about overwhelm, the not-wanting-to-get-out-of-bed is just a state, and states are changeable. They change all the time. Just look at your yoga practice. You can go from elated, to angry, to joyous, to sad, to anything really, all in 90 minutes. Or just look at yesterday, today you might feel like garbage, but yesterday you didn’t. What’s really so different today than yesterday other than your state? Nothing. When you understand this about yourself, you have already won half the battle because now you can do something about it.
So, what to actually “do” about it? Here’s what works for me:
- Give myself a time limit and set the timer.
Really what this is about is acknowledging my exhaustion or not-wanting-to-do-it-anymoreness, and making a plan to work with it. The amount of time I choose really depends on the time I actually have. I may have an hour between classes, or clients, so that’s the time I have to work with. I also might have all day to wallow in my stuff and need to be conservative with the amount of time I give to the wallowing. No matter how much time I have, I’m creating time to be with it, and giving it a limit so it doesn’t suck the life out of me.
- Then go back to bed, watch TV, movie, kitty (or puppy, we just got one last week!) cuddle, reading, or whatever I’m craving to tune out for a while.
I actually go back to bed, or any and all of the above. I give myself completely to it, and don’t feel bad about it. It has to happen for me to move on. I think Carl Jung said it best: “What you resist persists.” When we feel like staying in bed all day this is no small signal. Some part of you is yelling at you to pay attention. Giving it some time to be heard and acknowledged is essential for it to relax and move on.
- Move my body.
Once the time limit is done I move, and the best way is to get outside. Fresh air I swear is medicine! I might go pick weeds in my garden, go for a walk, do some yoga, or get on my bike. Just like the cliché goes: move a muscle, change a feeling. It honestly works. Just get out and move your body and the energy will shift.
- Get back on the horse and get on with it.
It’s time to get back to whatever I was working on and move on. Some days it’s not that easy, and on those days I make it easy. I let go of anything that isn’t essential, and let the day be one where I be nice to myself and don’t sweat it. For the few times it happens to me a week (just kidding!), taking the odd day or part day off is totally worth it to not feel bad. Sometimes we all just need a break. 🙂
Now, I want to hear from you! What do you do when you are feeling “done with it all, and not want to get out of bed?” Please add your suggestions below the post in the comments.
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I hope you have a fabulous week ahead of you and I can’t wait to hear from you!
Love and Light,