If you are anything like me, you can get really focused on “doing” by putting your head down and pushing forward.
I’ll get something in my head, and push towards it at all costs focusing solely on getting it completed.
And yes, sigh, I teach yoga and meditation, and should be “in the moment.”
I’m also incredibly human.
I’m driven, ambitious, and I love the learning that comes from challenging myself.
Sometimes though, I realize that something feels off.
I’m no longer enjoying what I’m doing. I feel like I “have” to do it.
I get resistant, procrastinate, and just want to stay in bed or clean the house to avoid it.
Other times it feels off because I almost feel manic.
It consumes me and I am obsessed with getting it done. I will eat, sleep, and breathe it.
When I feel off, my tool to get a clearer perspective is to ask myself a very simple question which gets to the heart of things very quickly:
What is this all for?
It’s similar to “why” which is what I blogged about last week, but with a perspective that’s closer to home for me.
What it’s really asking, me is: is this worth it?
I get the most joy and renewal from connection because I genuinely love and am interested in people.
If what I’m focused on disconnects me, I suffer.
I lose interest and motivation. I can get irritable and even feel depressed because I need a certain amount of contact to be well.
Maintaining balance is a big part of juggling a business and living a fulfilling, meaningful, and joyous life.
The real benefit of all the years of yoga and meditation isn’t that I’m Zen-like all the fricken’ time, it’s that I know myself well enough to see clearly when my behavior isn’t matching my intentions.
I notice sooner when I feel off, and am able to take a step back and re-evaluate what I’m doing, and why I’m doing it. This has a lot of value for 2 reasons.
1) I might commit even stronger if it’s worth it but I’m losing momentum.
Resistance shows up within me as procrastination. So, it’s helpful for me to be clear that I’m resistant because I’m sick of doing it, but know that pushing through it will be worth it in the end. I will then recommit to my larger “why” and reignite the spark of inspiration to continue.
2) I might decide to change course, stop, or shift how I’m doing things.
The resistance might actually be a sign that what I’m doing isn’t right, or sustainable, so don’t continue like this any longer.
So how do I know when it’s time to shift gears or stop?
I look at my deal breakers:
- My core values are my north star. They serve my highest good and always steer me in the right direction. (Take the free Clarity Crash Course to find yours by clicking here.) If what I’m doing brings me out of alignment with them, it’s time to change things up or stop.
- Another, is if I’ve lost sight of my “why.” If I no longer can attach it to my bigger vision, and am just doing it to get done, it’s time to shift gears.
- Lastly, if I feel I am sacrificing my quality of life such as: exercise, eating well, family, friends, learning, personal goals, it’s not worth it.
I believe our lives are meant to be lived and lived well. If I can’t balance my life with what I’m working on, my life will NOT be what is compromised.
So, I’d love to hear from you now: What are your deal breakers, and how do you know when it’s time to slow down, stop, or shift gears? Share your comments on the blog below, or feel free to share in the Soul Sisterhood!
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Love and Light,