born through fire

Hello Gorgeous,

Last week I shared on my blog a quote from J.K. Rowling: Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.

So in the last round of Soul Strategy I shared a little bit of my history, my story of what shaped me into the woman I am today.

Just like your life, mine has scars, tragedies, and challenges…and for me some of it wasn’t pretty.

As Carl Jung famously quoted: I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.

I am definitely not what happened to me, I created the woman I am today and I am proof that you can too.

It surprised women in the group, and a few of them said to me: I thought you would have been born this way, happy, positive and confident!

Not a chance.

In fact most people I know who are confident, positive, and resilient, are that way because they’ve faced things that were hard and fought their way to the other side.

Confident strong people are born through fire, not through the womb. Click to Tweet that if you like.

The science behind confidence (and happiness for that matter) is 50% nature or genetic, and 50% nurture or within your control to change.

What that means for you is that by changing your behavior you will change how you are, and you will change your life.

In the Soul Strategy Sessions you will learn specific mindsets, coupled with behaviors to start creating the woman you want to be in a life you want to live.

Just imagine how your life would be different if you could say no without guilt, be clear on your purpose, have tools to get you moving when fear rears its ugly head, or even just have a set time to ask yourself the big questions about life and understand what you really want?

You will stop just thinking about it and get into action, and truly that’s the only way change happens and where confidence is born.

“Tina’s coaching gave me the tools to turn thoughts into action.” – Lucinda Taylor, B.Sc, Information Technology 

You will uncover your true core values and become laser focused.

“The Soul Strategy Sessions have empowered me to pursue my goals with focus and confidence. With the support of your soul sisters and Tina’s guidance and teaching you are able to uncover a clear path to success and live life to the fullest.” –Carly Graham, Graduate Student

You will my best tools for moving past fear and into confidence.

“Because of this community, I was able to face my fears, challenge my limited thinking as well as my behaviors that do not help me attain my goals in life. I have found my inner power through the encouragement and compassion from Tina and the wonderful women that I journeyed with during this session.” – Suzanne Hehn–Social Worker

You will be more confident, focused, and more supported than ever with an incredible group of women who are just like you.

I absolutely loved my Soul Strategies class that I had taken with Tina and 15 lovely women that I am now proud to call my Soul Sistas. It was an empowering experience that I’m forever grateful for.
Calynda Triffo, The Wireless Age

“I have learned to set accurate goals for myself, set deadlines, and think in a more positive way, a more courageous way. I was able to see that if I desire something and I express it in words, set deadlines, think positively, and take action steps, anything is possible.” Sarah Wells- BSW

The next session starts June 2nd and it’s already half full!

The Soul Strategy Sessions work because it’s not about theory.

You’ve probably already read lots of books of how to live better, watched TED talks, and done some work on your own.

So why hasn’t it worked so far?

Theory and insight is nothing without action.

The Soul Strategy Sessions shifts your mindset and changes how you think while getting into action.

THAT is where long lasting results happen, and where you become the boss, the creator, and the architect of your life.

In addition to the incredible transformation above, you will also be invited to join us in the Soul Sisterhood Facebook group, become a part of an 8 week private Facebook group with your Soul Sisters, and have a chance to win some of my favorite things!

Want to learn more? Click here for the rest of the goods.

Growth is uncomfortable, and you don’t have to do this alone. You can have support, learn tools that really work, and get lasting results while having a blast along the way!

Dare to be you.

Love and Light,

t

where magic lives

Not long ago I had a magical experience when I drove home from the gym.

It was that time of morning when the shadows are deep and the sun is bright and warm overhead. Driving was almost blinding as my eyes were adjusting to the darkness of the shadows and brilliance of light.

As I drove up to the curb, I noticed the large puddle in front of our house that always turns up after any amount of rain.

It was supposed to get fixed when the city repaved the street last year. It was still there afterwards so my husband Dave asked one of the city workers why it was still heaved, and he replied: “You can’t polish a turd.”

Anyways, instead of pulling up behind my husband’s truck through the puddle, I stopped short because I noticed a group robins bathing in it on the road.

I was reminded of a line from one of my favorite poets:

“The whole world keeps whispering or shouting to you,
Nibbling your ear like a neglected lover.”
-Alison Luterman 

I sat in my car for a few minutes watching the golden light streaming through the leaves over the birds while they bathed in shifting sunlight.

Sometimes they were splashing and fluffing their feathers and resembled little puff balls, and sometimes they would chase each other in the puddle before flying to catch each other in the air. They looked joyous, reveling in their good fortune to play and bathe in the sunshine.

Beauty is everywhere, and when we take the time to notice it we have positive physiological effects.

Just watching the robins, I could feel my heart rate slow from previously rushing to get home. My breath become steady, and felt a visceral sense of peace, delight, and well being, simply by slowing down and noticing the wonder, beauty, and magic of the world we belong to.

You don’t have to wait for moments like this, you can create them, and here’s how:

  1. Schedule it.

For most of us, we don’t naturally look for beauty randomly. So schedule it. Set a time, or a reminder for you to look out your window, or better yet get outside, with the intention of being present for beauty. I’ve had many clients that think it should just “happen” and be spontaneous, but if you’re mind isn’t already inclined to look for beauty and wonder it will require support to become an automatic habit.

  1. Look without trying to “see” something.

Take the pressure off. You don’t need to see something specific. Allow your eyes to wander with the attitude of appreciating the world around you. Your attitude will change how you see things, and I promise you that if you give yourself enough time, they will start to see wonder and beauty everywhere!

  1. Appreciate.

The more you are able to appreciate the world, yes, even the man-made one, you will see the magic of your life. Man-made stuff is pretty amazing. Everything you see around you, whether it’s an airplane, an office tower, your computer, came from someone’s idea and will to bring it into being. It’s actually pretty awe inspiring, and they were all created by people no smarter than you.

As for the natural world, notice the way the light shines, the feel of the grass under your feet, smell the air, soak it up with all of your senses and let yourself fall into the richness of it all. There’s a reason why we feel so at home in in nature. It reminds us of who WE are and that we are not only a part of the mystery of this world, we belong to it.

  1. Focus on how you feel.

Savour what it feels like as you bask in the moment. Feel the air on your skin. Smell the air, and sense what it feels like as it moves through your nose and into your body. Notice what emotion might be here in the moment without judgement, just feel where it lives in your body to get to know it. Feel yourself right here, connected to the earth, exactly as you are and let it be enough as it is.

  1. Look through new eyes.

It is not the world that needs to change to be more wondrous, magical, or beautiful: it is the eyes that view it. Beauty is everywhere and goodness is everywhere. Magic and wonder are everywhere. Most of us are used to seeing only what we look for, and have forgotten to see that we belong to something infinite, complex yet incredibly simple, breathtaking, and life affirming.

It takes practice to look for something you may not have seen before, or very often.

But I know, you have had those moments of clarity where everything feels exactly how it should be and you feel totally connected to the world around you in a profound and meaningful way. We all have, maybe not often, but we have, and if you practice the steps above you will have more of them, I know it!

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Do you believe in magic? I’d love to hear your responses below.

You are a powerful, inspiring, and incredible human being capable of changing your life, and your world…just in case you forgot!

Love and Light,

t